Davey Wavey: Single in the City

Being in singledom can yield some of the best years of your life – it all depends on how you deal with it.

The other day, I was answering a question from one of my blog readers. Just out of a relationship, he wanted to know if it’s “okay” to be single. And he warned me not to give him any of the peace and love bullshit that has become my hallmark.

Being recently single, his question struck a little close to home. While some might feel that single is actually an acronym (Stay Intoxicated Nightly, Get Laid Everyday), I personally feel like it’s a great opportunity for personal growth, and more frequent masturbation.

Speaking of rubbing, there’s nothing that rubs me the wrong way more than the idea that our partners, boyfriends or husbands are our “other half” – and that we need another person to complete us. Fuck that. If you don’t feel like you’re a full and complete person in and of yourself, it’s not a boyfriend that you need – but rather a reality check and a good shrink.

And really, being single – just like entering into a relationship – is a choice. All of us could get with someone just for the sake of being with someone. I’m sure you know a friend or loved one who jumps from dismal relationship to dismal relationship without taking any time to cultivate the relationship they have with themselves. Ultimately, it’s a lot better to be single and happy than be with someone and miserable.

Settling and compromising what you want is weak. And while it’s totally admirable to watch people create beautiful relationships and make them work, it’s also admirable to hold your standards. Hold out and wait for that special someone with an eight-inch tongue who can breathe through his ears. Yes, you’re worth it.

You’ve probably woken up next to your fair share of men. But one man that you’ll always wake up with is yourself. While it’s great to invite other people into your life, it’s so important to focus some of that energy and attention inward. If being single makes you lonely (there’s a difference between being alone and lonely), then own it. It just means you have a lot of learning and growing to do. We’ve all been there.

I guess my point is this: Being single doesn’t mean you’re “fugly”, stupid or that your mom has a loud bark. It can really be an amazing – maybe even the best – time of your life and full of evolution. Besides, all the piss on the toilet seat is yours. And compared to a relationship, porn is cheaper, easier and comes in more varieties.

Davey Wavey, popular blogger and YouTuber, can be found spreading peace and love on his shirtless adventures around the world at www.breaktheillusion.com.